Every man with his predicament, we have heard alot about some married men who face problems in their matrimonial life. Most of this marriage problems are:
(1) Drug Habit
(2)Unfaithful Relationship
(3) Threat
(4)Deception or Constant Lying
(5) Lack of Affection
(6)No Time Dedication
(7)Bad Behavior and Character
(7)Opposite Thinking
So Many Craps you can get rid of easily, if you Friend My Blog by Reading his post carefully, it will restore your mindset to a point that handles issue correctly, not only that it will feed you with knowledge and wisdom to handle things in a prudent manner, it will update you with marriage story, problem, cause and solutions. This post is not dedicated for only Married and Unmarried men, it is for anyone who is anxious to make changes. This post focuses on men just because they are the head of the family and the way they leave determines how their family will be, some many homes cannot stand just because of ignorance and common mistake the man makes, Read on to tune your mind to the solution of what you are passing through.
Stop complaining for what you experience at home,do not be fed up because you are the fault and it is high time you press the button to make your family the way you will be proud of. You are the controller of your family, and your family is a full reflection and copy of you, What you put in your family will determine the outcome, Just like you PC at home that feeds you with what you install in it. If a programmer put a negative information in a computer he cannot expect a positive information from the system. Can you sow groundnut on a piece of land and expect beans. If you want attain success in your home, put the right thing in your family, build up your family, and be creative. Read on to know more about family plan and arrangement.
If there is anyone to be criticized is the man because it is the husband responsibility to bring up a new good wife from her previous person. most people say you have to examine the girl you wish to wed for one year at-least to understand everything about her and her family before marriage, I accept because it is going to give you more chances of success but so many girls today are pretenders, imposters they conceal their characters without their fiance comprehending, thus when they have got their man entirely so they display that thing they have been hiding.
Marriage is not a thing you wake up early in the morning and jump into because it can make your life miserable if you are not cautious, so many people are having problems with their wife just because they did not plan well, they define marriage differently, marriage supposed to be the beginning of happiness but to them it has a different meaning, to them it is the synonym of hell, so many people are suffering in their matrimonial homes today their life's are more miserable than ever, if you take a look at the life of some couples I think you will prefer to be a single, do not be scared yours will be different only if you plan well, it is said people fail to plan no one ever plan to fail
Why most people face such difficult in their matrimonial home is because they do not decide well many youths go after the outer beauty of women they do not care how the inner beauty looks, am so sorry you are giving yourself a big crap to pull, I am not saying you should not go for a beautiful girl, am saying you have to be so wise because marriage is not a thing you jump in thinking you can come out easily, it is a bond I tell you, you have to watch properly and decided well, do not be moved by beauty(Be Your Self), when you come across a beautiful woman that is when you have to be more sensitive and conscious of yourself, so many people today memories have been switched off by the beauty of a girl (woman).
Men that succeed today are men who are themselves when they come across beautiful women. I am telling you, if you like to marry a beautiful woman you should also be wise enough to check if the inner part of her is also beautiful because that is the main beauty we are talking about, beauty without good character is nonsense, I know so many young boys are been mistaught to reason the authentic beauty of a woman is the outer beauty, I proof them wrong it is not! I am telling you that broad is way to hell, if you are going for what people say, not what reality speaks, just know you are choosing to face problem in your marriage life. The credit of a girl with outer beauty is 15% why the inner beauty credit is 75%, I am talking to you! Be watchful do not be misled, try to know more about the girl you wish to marry before you put on the green light, so you will not be thrown into a state of unhappiness, which I do not wish.
Most guys today believe so much in the possession of woman not caring to know who the woman is?. I know it is not possible to know everything about a woman when you are unmarried, the full characters of women appeal from five months of marriage, after marriage most women are strong enough to keep their character until they give birth.
That is when she shows what she is really made of. Men who are not dominated by women are the ones that succeed in their marriage life because they are conscious and watching they are able to read the mind of women through their performances and absorption, you can read the mind of a woman at least 60%, the higher the percentage you know a woman before you marry her the smaller the percentage she has to display after marriage and the easier to correct, if you know your problem it is 70 percent solved. So If you have a girl right now that you wish to marry, you should keep outside her outer beauty for the main time and start penetrating into her inner beauty so you can start putting things in her because the earlier is the better.
For men who have already married and they are experiencing strange attitude of their wife that they do not like, men that their wife have turned into monster and men who are fed up of their wife attitude and preparing to divorce I am telling you to stop any action you are planning to take, every problem has a solution and when you are aware of your problem it is 70% solved.
If you are a married and you are experiencing what I am talking about and you have been planning to divorce you wife or do any heartbreaking stuff, I am talking to you suspend all actions. If your wife is bad blame yourself, have you forgotten that special day you choose to be the head of the house, do not forget you made an oat that very day you choose to love her for better and worse, meaning if you matrimonial home turn up to be bad that cannot affect you unconditional love you have for her.
I will not tell you to write a divorce paper because you will be not man enough if you do that, any man who divorce his for the sake of minor family issues like this is not men enough, read on to know how to turn your family into a way you will be proud of and people will adore.
Even after all you are passing through in you matrimonial home I so much believe you can make a change to it only if you are ready to, you are a man, this is the easiest thing you can solve, remember you have faced worse situations and settled them also, if you are saying you are fed up of the relationships know that you are not man enough and you need to be nurtured again, Just know you are given a task and it has to be solved by you.
Do not expect anyone to do it for you because they have their task too, do you think separation is going to cool down this situation, it will, not it will only increase you pain and your life will never remain the same if you do it, what God has joined nobody can put asunder, Even the husband or the wife, do not forget love is like fire, if you are careful, it can light your world forever, if it is misused it can burn you and the scar will remain, Most people today divorce hoping they can return their life to normal and never because that scar is still there, I am confidently saying separation is not the way to recondition your emotions.
Take a deep breath to relaxed your temper, when you are pressured by something you hardly think properly, particular when your negative emotions have taken over your head, you have to clear every nonsense thought from your mind and start thinking positively, think of solutions only, it is high time you start confronting your problem boldly do not be scared of it, you know your family more than anyone do, you are aware of the cause, effect and the outcome of your problem, you have not thing to worry because it is the key to your solution.
Tune you mindset positively, and say to yourself, I choose to bring up a happy family, you mindset is a reflection of you and your family, if you start thinking positively your family will also, your family follows your foot step because you are the leader. If you work on yourself now you will see your family pleasing you you, women are so easy to correct, your wife is not a monster, go straight to her express tell her how you feel about her and let her know how you want her to be, you will notice changes in her, a woman cannot please you until you make her to , it is how a programmer schedules a PC that demonstrate how the PC will conduct, the input is proportional to the output.
Even children when they are playing together you will observe the boy's boss the girls, and the girls are glad to abide to the rules as the boys wish, the ball is in your curt, women do not like men that are controlled by them, they love men that give order. You are her husband it is your responsibility to make her love you. This is my final word for you------ Make changes now----The best time to plant to tree is 20 years ago and second best time is now----------Do what is advantageous ------------DON'T BE MISLED
NOTE: You need these for a peaceful, happy and successful married life e.g Unconditional Love, Kindness, Caring & friendly, Contant Communication, realistic aims, commitment, nurturing, and tolerance
